The creative community, especially in a digital era, is an incredible thing. It's a collective sentience from which a world of spirits conjoin to feed the whole. During the last ten years, I've been incredibly lucky and blessed to have experienced some unbelievably positive communications and friendships as a result of my presence and interaction within a creative online forum (in one capacity or another). And I can happily assert that the positive far outweighs the negative, at least when drawing from my own experiences.
But there is a worm working its way through the essence of our communal purpose.
Perhaps it's always been there, this bit of darkness, and it's only the ever-growing digital world that allows it a stage for its play. But I'm concerned, folks. Truly. I run a large wire wrapping Facebook group, with over 26k members (and counting) and, while the majority of the interactions are (thankfully) super helpful, positive and from a place of growth and inspiring creative spirit, there's an alarming amount of negativity. And, having thought about it for some time now, I'm confident in my theories regarding its source.
In essence, self-doubt breeds ugliness. Because there's an undeniable need to tear others down to lift ourselves up. It's easier to see ourselves as better than we believe ourselves to be, when we convince others they are somehow less. In the last week, I've seen individuals criticize (and I have a very strong opinion against offering unsolicited advice or critical commentary) the work of others, for no other reason than to hear themselves talk. Because, ultimately, criticisms are only beneficial when shared in a manner that is empowering. This social skill, like any other, must be learned.
In the creative community, when does serving our own interests justify questionable behavior? If everyone doesn't leave an interaction having been empowered, even if only a little, then there's no justification at all. It's not "helpful" to make any of the above statements, and I honestly and sincerely question the motivations of those who believe otherwise.
It's time we, as a whole, take a moment. Stop and think about how our opinions, and how we chose to express those opinions, affect others. We can no longer enable this behavior, nor foster an atmosphere in which it's more acceptable to say "Well you posted it online, so you should expect people to tell you they don't like it" than to say "I can't wait to see your next creation" or, if you can't or wont indulge in false compliments, say nothing at all. It's time we recognize that because we can offer an opinion doesn't mean we should, and it's important to understand the needs of those sharing their work before we commit to our comments to them.
Words have power. And this power is motivated by either negative or positive intention. Will you chose to use your power to diminish others, or lift them up?
1/19/2019 10:19:35 am
Lift them up!!! So if I do not have anything nice to say, I don't say anything at all. I move on.
2/5/2019 01:24:34 pm
Thank you for your thoughtful commentary on this subject. I pass by the negative as quickly as I can. Your FB group has surprisingly few members that just can’t say anything nice. Most artist I know are kind as well as brilliant. Those are the ones that inspire not criticize.
2/5/2019 07:41:06 pm
I truly love seeing the work of others, the experienced and the unexperienced all have something to share and learn;The ugly worm as you have called it is why I no longer comment or share creation of anything in the groups any more.
Bravo Nicole Bravo!!!👏👏👏👏💪💪💪❤️❤️❤️😘😘 Very very well said you actually brought tears to my eyes remembering times when I've heard those "example" phrases of negativity, unsolicited advice or, criticism for nothing more than the self satisfied chance of hearing (or reading) their own opinions 😢 from the beginning I've had those types of self righteous ppl always being critical and calling it constructive criticism to cover their backsides for being just plain cruel at times 😭 but fortunately I've been blessed and encouraged by way more positive comments and feedback. Also my journey has caused me to cross paths with you and so many other beautiful souls that encourage, teach, and uplift others so because of this amazing supportive artistic community, my wire work has progressed me to a level of artistry and skill that I'm now finally beginning to feel confident and find my self worth that I'd been searching for most of my adult life ❤️ so to the wonderful "uplifters" out there thank you a thousand times over you are truly the heart of humanity personified ❤️❤️
2/16/2019 12:32:25 pm
I see this trend everywhere-people who feel the need to spread ugliness and negativity, to tear others down. Your post is a great reminder to always be aware of MY OWN intentions every time I put my words out into the world.
3/6/2019 02:54:30 pm
God bless you and thank you for your invaluable insights
Julia An Snyder
3/9/2019 02:28:34 am
Great Communication is the KEY TO GREAT SUCCESS
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